My wife works at child care as a lead teacher.What she should do if she feels being discriminated?
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My wife(We are Non-white) works at child care as a lead teacher.What she should do if she feels being discriminated?One or two of another lead teachers treats her in bad way and in discriminated way even my wife allways treat them nicely and trying to work as a team player and but those other lead teachers doesn’t and directors are ignoring my wife’s feeling and supporting them.My wife is very sincere person.She is very dedicated to her work and really work as a team player.Recently she received many gifts and appreciation cards from children’s parents on graduation day(They do have graduation kind of stuff even they are 3 to 6 yrs old kids) but those teachers didn’t.They are trying to point here fault and complains to director about here for silly reasons and also kind of jealous to my wife.How she supposed to deal with it?Any good suggestions?
To the person who is pointing out about my English have no idea besides learning English we are facing many things that is more imp.At least we are trying to learn English,working hard and not taking any advantage of second language.if you know what i am referring to.
My wife(We are Non-white) works at child care as a lead teacher.What she should do if she feels being discriminated?One or two of another lead teachers treats her in bad way and in discriminated way even my wife allways treat them nicely and trying to work as a team player and but those other lead teachers doesn’t and directors are ignoring my wife’s feeling and supporting them.My wife is very sincere person.She is very dedicated to her work and really work as a team player.Recently she received many gifts and appreciation cards from children’s parents on graduation day(They do have graduation kind of stuff even they are 3 to 6 yrs old kids) but those teachers didn’t.They are trying to point here fault and complains to director about here for silly reasons and also kind of jealous to my wife.How she supposed to deal with it?Any good suggestions?
To the person who is pointing out about my English have no idea besides learning English we are facing many things that is more imp.At least we are trying to learn English,working hard and not taking any advantage of second language.if you know what i am referring to.
Tags: Appreciation Cards, Child Care, Graduation Day
June 12th, 2008 at 10:07 am
she should shake it off and keep doing what she is doing those other teachers are just jealous.
June 15th, 2008 at 5:52 am
if she thinks shes being discriminated upon she needs to document these events. and eac time she speaks to her supervisor she shoudl have them sign the papar acknowldging they have read and reviewed her complaints, after a while if things do not get better than i would take ur documentation toa lawyer and sue for discrimination.
June 18th, 2008 at 6:40 am
what she should do?
i hope she didnt teach you how to write
well when they treats her in a bad way tells her to finds a new job
most educated people would not work in a place where they are uncomfortable
unless they are just looking for a reason to sue someone
June 19th, 2008 at 10:33 am
That is a difficult situation for her to be in! I think that continuing to do her job to the best of her abilities is the first thing. I’m not sure that what you’re describing has anything to do with the color of her skin and everything to do with the fact that they are jealous.
My son’s daycare teacher has a different skin color than we do, and even before she was his primary teacher we got her gifts at holiday/teacher appreciation stuff because she is an amazing teacher who is very involved. There are a lot of others at his daycare center that just simply are not.
I would suggest that your wife keep the cards, to remind herself of how valued she is by the parents (the ones who pay her salary) and sit down with the director and ask if there is anything she can do to foster a more positive team enviornment. Instead of blaming the other teachers, she is showing she wants to be part of the solution and that is always better received.
June 21st, 2008 at 3:35 pm
I work as a Lead Teacher in a Preschool that is run by the Federal Government. We have a chain of command that if there is something happening, we can follow and take our concerns to. If the Director/Supervisor doesn’t help, you can always go to thier boss, and if that doesn’t work, you can go to that persons boss. We are lucky, that we have a Union in our division, that if something like discrimination is happening, we can bring that to our Union’s attention and they can assist.
I would recommend if your wife didn’t have resources like what our organization has. That she document everything, and anything that she feels is going on. Then this can be used to show proof of her concerns to the director and or thier supervisor or Human Resources dept. That is what thier job is.. (handling complaints and employee problems).
June 24th, 2008 at 4:07 pm
If she is being discriminated against tell her to record everything. If she can, get anything and everything in writing. It helps if you need a lawsuit.
The most important thing she could do is stick up for herself. If she feels she’s being treated wrong, the worst thing she should do is keep quiet (I know that comes from personal experience in my current situation). Let her voice be heard. When new people arrive be the first to greet them and always smile (just don’t let people run over you) and be courteous. Phony people hate that and their ugliness does nothing but shows. And don’t worry about appreciation cards. The ones she got from the kids are the most important b/c they are from the heart.